Tuesday 23 January 2018

THE UNSUNG HEROES OF OUR HOMES

  • It was a pleasant evening of November 18,2017, when the 67th edition of Miss World pageant was held with 118 contestants from all over the world competing for the title.
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  • The brilliant reply given by India's Manushi Chiller that earned her MISS WORLD 2017 crown to a question, 'Which profession deserves the highest salary and why? has set the ball rolling indeed. 

  • She rightly said that the job of a mother  deserves the highest salary,  it's not just money but the LOVE AND RESPECT  that she deserves. 
  • A thought provoking answer indeed. 
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  • No sooner did Manushi and her reply took the media by storm than various organisations released their findings, pointing out the rate at which the work that a mother does should be paid.
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  • The question of unpaid labour of motherhood started doing rounds. 
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  • It also gave a food for my thought. 

  • IS  MOTHERHOOD  REALLY  A PROFESSION? 
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  • I always consider it as a  ROLE that we play in our life, rather in our family, be it of mother, daughter or a wife.
  • A family works meticulously together, all members playing  their roles and contributing a bit to keep the bond strong among themselves.
  • Being a Mom who took a hiatus from job and voluntarily decided to be hands-on-mom and fortunate enough for having a family who valued my contribution, I sincerely feel that.. 
  • MOTHERS DO NOT WORK FOR SURVIVAL, THEY DO NOT WORK TO GET A REMUNERATION. 
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  • They are homemakers, binding each member of the family emotionally and financially too. If they take a part of the well managed finance as  their remuneration the beauty of motherhood rather the relationship is lost.
  • No amount of reward can match the love with which she prepares and serves food. 
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  • WHAT TO COOK FOR MEALS EVERYDAY to satisfy the  tastebuds of each  one seems to be the most challenging part.
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  • ALL MOTHERS THERE!!! 
  • Are you listening? 
  • I am sure all will unanimously agree with me that a mother is the happiest soul when all the members likes the food she prepares and no one sleeps with an empty stomach. 

  • There are STAY-AT-HOME MOMS AND THOSE JUGGLING BETWEEN CAREER AND HOME. 
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  • Moms, whether stay-at-home or career oriented both deserves SALUTE for their price less contribution towards their families.
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  • THE FOLLOWING STATEMENT  I WANT TO SAY IT LOUDLY.. 
  • There are many cases where in mother's role is taken for granted with ungrateful families in such cases there is a dire need for healthy recognisation from not only all the members of the house but also from  the society as well. 
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  • MOTHERS ARE THE BEST EXAMPLE OF INSPIRATION TO A CORPORATE PERSON.  The speed and the accuracy with which she manages the entire errands of a home sets an example of multitasking. 
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  • Managing a home includes..
  • Planning, Decision making, directing, implementing the plans monitoring discipline, reviewing the financial budget making necessary adjustments for sudden crisis, to be precise multitasking with doing all the household chores perfectly.. 
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  • Following Manushi's reply, I have come across with many writeups about the cash remuneration  to be paid to all mothers. Who will pay her? Her own family members? 
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  • Moreover, the glorification of motherhood absolves the ROLE OF FATHERS  who are sharing the responsibilities of running the house as well as raising the child too.
  • Mother and Father together make a  family and both do not owe each other any remuneration, each one playing one's role of keeping the family happy. 
  • At times, the role of a father is reversed with the man of the house being hands on parent to enable the lady of the house to pursue her career. Do we think of paying him?

  • Manushi Chiller rightly said, it is not just money but the love and respect that a mother deserves, But with due respect to her reply I would say,  the love and respect a homemaker be a mother or a father deserves. 
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  • Kudos to her for her excellent reply on a global stage that gave motherhood the recognition it deserves. 
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  • No amount of remuneration can match the hardships, efforts with which a family is raised by a homemaker be a father or a mother.
  • It is said that mothers make homes, I would say IT IS NOT JUST MOTHERS BUT FATHERS TOO MAKE HOMES.
  • That too with a smile and enduring love 

  • I will be repeating myself if I say once again that...
  • Love and respect that a homemaker deserves, is the highest salary indeed. 

6 comments:

  1. Thoughts well put.. Being a mom and a mother and a daughter and many such roles one plays in our daily lives, we should ask ourselves a question ..what satisfies us? Is it money, fame.. No its what you have concluded..love n respect.. Well written article

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  2. Thanks Jyostna,for inspiring me to keep on writing!!

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  3. About six months ago Kotak Securities released a publication which opined that if women participated in workforce Indias GDP could climb by 60%. While I appreciate gender diversity at formal workplaces it made me wonder why are all these institutions inferring that women do not contribute otherwise.
    A say-at-home-wife/mother is equally if not more to the household- a house is a mini administrative structure which builds a nation. Just like an IAS to manage a district or a city a home too needs a full time highly committed, intelligent person. A home is where a wife a mother nurtures and trains the next generation to be highly productive citizens. She is doing nation building. There would have been no Shivaji if not for Jijabai, there would have been no Prophet Muhammed if not for his wife Khadija.
    Managing a house with the limitations of budget, saving inspite of limited budget, feeding the members of the house, maintaining public relations as family friends, teaching manners and discipline is all so immensely valuable.
    Imagine kids bing just given all that they need by both working parents with no one to oversee them. We can substitute sundry work with a maid or help. But what about character building?
    Such an economy where the house and the next generation is not cared for will collapse in a generation.

    A woman as a wife, a mother carries out duties which apparently is seen as insignificant by certain economic pundits are myopic and believe in the optics of just a paycheque.
    Let us appreciate and believe fully in the fact that if not for that full time single minded dedication to us, we would not have been capable of what we are today.

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  4. Pratiksha, that was wonderfully put.
    If every human contribution and responsibility in the world starts getting weighed vis a vis monetary renumeration, then the beauty of the self-less "giving" & "sharing" gets diluted.
    The real essence and the higher role and purpose towards oneself & also towards others, thrives on pure and genuine love & respect towards one another.
    The foundation of a well-built building has many pillars, each with a specific space and role for itself, equally important to keep the building stand tall and strong.

    Enjoyed reading through your perspective...
    Keep it up & all the best☺️👌

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    1. Hi Sanjay,
      Thanks for reading and appreciating.
      Glad to know your perspective as well.

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